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Ok I plan on asking my girlfriend to marry me when I get back from Vacation.


Why the rush you ask?


She has a (really) fucked up famliy life and I need to get her out of that house and somewhere I know she'll be safe. I can't really get in to it. But she needs her freedom.

The wedding wont be for a few years but you will all get an invite

smjmcomic,
Don't rush it!!!!!!
Don't make the same mistake I did!!!!!
You shouldn't marry her to rescue her!!!
Try moving in together.
That is not a valid reason to get married!
I know you love her but I didn't see the word "love' once in your post.
Don't be mad at me but I couldn't remain silent...you hit a nerve...

billyb0y,

Preach the truth, brother Billy!

Shawn, NEVER, NEVER get married to someone you've been with less than a year. THat is unless you are ready to find out that you are married to a woman you really don't know...

JTF and billybOy,
Damn guys how about a good luck maybe......


Shawn,
They are right though, but I'm sure she will be glad to know she is not wasting her time and that you do have intentions of marrying her before her "clock" gets to ticking.Just letting her know you feel that strongly will give you a good amount of time before you really have to jump.........

....and possibly fall flat on yo face!!! ;p

It's all love dawg!!

smjmcomic,
What's up bro, looks like I came back just in time to stop you from making this fatal mistake. I did the same thing with my daugher's mother and the shit lasted about a year and we didn't even make it to the alter, thank god. I moved her in because of the pregnancy.
Try living together first and see if you two fit together. You'd be shocked to find out what you don't know about a person once you live with them and the trick is are you willing you to put up with that for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! Marriage is a lot of work, man.
Don't rush into it for the wrong reasons.
It's gotta be for tha' LOVE!

dougdigitalpro,

Maybe I shoulda moved in with my daughter's mother. **shudder** Then she could have seen me for who I am and wanted to stay as far away as possible. I'm one of these people that's hard to live with... That's why I have no illusions of ever even shackin' with anyone other than a canine!

astonamous,
Right! It truly is something to see and it is frightening.

astonamous,
I hope he listens-you speaking serious words of widsom here, girl!!
And everyone else too!!

smjmcomic,
Wow...I really don't want to give you advice because only you know your girl and if you really love her or not. But, I will say this...being twice married and twice divorced...I had two quick marriages. One was a rescue attempt. It lasted 6 years and we jumped ship only because we had different agendas. I think that's what you find out with long term dating. What are the financial, spiritual, and personal goals. I guess you just want to make sure that they meet your goals you've set for yourself too. Just remember this. Once you get married they don't "really" change. That's the way they were all the time. You just don't see it because you are infactuated and looking at the titties and ass all the time!!

Well I'm gona wait so I can save up enough to get her a somewhat nice ring I kinda through out the idea of me asking her just to see what she'd say and she kinda freaked out she gave me a bear hug and said that it would be like a dream come true I'm her "dream guy" I think I'm more like a nightmare but thats me.